‘He has lived with my parents his entire life and has always been a big spoiled brat’: 51-year-old Brother sparks inheritance feud after refusing to sell inherited family home and calls sibling selfish

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Feb 12, 2025 9:00 PM EST

Inheritances are like an awkward game of Monopoly, what starts as a seemingly harmless division of assets can quickly spiral into accusations, arguments, and nostalgic "That's not fair!" cries, just like when you were forced to share a toy growing up.

For many families, splitting an inheritance means not just dividing up sentimental heirlooms but also facing long-brewing tensions. Old sibling dynamics bubble to the surface, practicalities overshadow emotions, and suddenly, you have a drama that feels less Full House and more Big Brother: Family Edition.

At the heart of these clashes, just like in Big Brother is often a shared property. Nothing stirs the pot like a house steeped in childhood memories, a lingering sense of entitlement, and an unavoidable financial reality. It's a recipe for debates about fairness versus family loyalty, practicality versus nostalgia.

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  • "AITA for telling my brother he has to by my half of our inherited home?"

    "My brother on the other hand has not paid a dime to my dad, ever"
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  • My brother, 51, is living in my dad's childhood home. Granted all of us kids and friends have but we all paid rent, bills, and property tax. My brother on the other hand has not paid a dime to my dad, ever. He has lived with
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  • my parents his entire life, other than 7 years he was married, and has always been a big spoiled brat. He works and gets paid very well but my mom still managed his money. Anyway my parents
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  • have recently passed and we both have inherited the house. I refuse to pay for his bills and property tax if he's living there. I have a mortgage and other things of my own. I told him he
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  • FOR SALE
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  • has to buy my half of the house and he threw a fit and said that I'm selfish, why should he give me money for something I got for free. AITA for putting my foot down?
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  • LittleLily78 NTA. Legally he has to get out to sell or buy you out. And for him to call you selfish is laughable. He got it for free too. And unless he's cool with you renting out your half of the house to whoever you want (and I
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  • would pick someone horrible) then he doesn't get to have the whole house and you get nothing. I don't mean this in a mean way, but does he have mental issues or something? If so, I may change my thoughts.
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  • FamiliarFamiliar I'm not a lawyer, but I think in some of these cases you can petition a court to force a sale. But hopefully it won't come to that. Get some good numbers and sit down with him and talk this out. That is, if he's the type to be agreeable to such a meeting. Perhaps selling and splitting the money might be the best option.
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  • jeremyism_ab NTA but you're probably going to have to take steps to force a sale to get him to face facts. When you start negotiating about the value of the house, insist upon a certified appraiser, and follow up with a realtor or two, to get a decent approximation.
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  • LobsterLoving Llama NTA force the sale
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  • DliverUsFromMaleGaze Lol. No. NTA. You have options. Speak to an estate attorney to get started, regardless of what he wants. He's gonna learn real quick that a bluster attitude won't get him anything in the real world.
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  • Brit_in_usa1 NTA. Tell him that he either pays for your fair share OR you'll have to force a sale.
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  • Take one person who inherited their late parents' house with a sibling, a long-term resident who has never paid rent, property taxes, or expenses. When they proposed the sibling buy out their share, since they have a mortgage and bills of their own—the sibling accused them of selfishness. Their logic? Neither of them paid for the house, so why should they?  


     

  • disagreeabledinosaur Get a lawyer. This may not be as straightforward as you think.
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  • MrsSEM84 NTA. He absolutely does have to buy you out, the only alternative is to sell completely and split the money. You already know your brother is a selfish freeloader, don't for one second think you
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  • are wrong to demand what is yours. Get a lawyer. Don't accept any kind of payment scheme, you do not want to be tied to this situation any longer than is necessary. Either he pays you the whole amount in one go or the
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  • house goes on the market. Good luck, I'm sure he's not going to make it easy for you. Quick question though, why the h I did your parents leave him half? They
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  • should have cut him out of the will entirely, he's already had more than his fair share over the years. Not to mention they must have known he would do this you.
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  • Moder_Svea If the two of you had inherited a million dollars from your parents you would have gotten the money for free. Would your brother have expected you to give up your half then as well? A house is worth money. Money that you are owed 50% of. NTA of course
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  • CursesSailor Lawyer up!
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  • jeremyfisher1996 Gosh their entitled these days. It's was left to both of you. Either he buys your share or it sells. trying to stay for free, out live you and get the lot. F him
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  • Usual_Bumblebee_8274 Nta. Get an estate lawyer quickly. Before you both lose the house & owe a fortune
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  • Striking_Rip851 Talk to an estate attorney that man is going to need to be forced out, start the process before he starts messing things up in a fit.
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  • Should one sibling get special privileges for sticking around? Were they sticking around or stuck in your parents’ Should another be forced into financial responsibility for a place they don’t even call home? The answers are rarely straightforward, and the arguments are rarely quiet.  

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